People God Does Not Want Us To Help
Did you know that there are people God does not want us to help? Though we are to love our neighbor, we are also instructed areas where we need to use discernment when it comes to certain types of people we are not to support or rescue. I know of a family member who was heavy into drugs and alcohol. There were times I tried to help, but then it came to a point where I had to ask myself, “Am I helping this person or just enabling them?” I remember talking with a social worker and talked about my question I had. She plain out told me not to even offer this person a sandwich.
Laziness
Those who cause division
Fools Not the ignorant, but the fool who doesn’t want to learn, but just to argue
Violent Do name friends with a hot tempered man
those who use suffering as spiritual manipulation
crisis adict
Let’s start with Jeremiah 3:15. “I will give you pastors according to my heart which shall feed you with knowledge and understanding.” I believe that the Lord has put me here to teach hard things, to help people grow in faith, and to get on the straight and narrow. I am not talking sin conscience, I’m talking conviction. It’s interesting that they both feel the same but one causes condemnation, guilt and fear, the other helps us to repent and change into His image.
As Christians, we have a desire to HELP people. But there are seven types of people we are never to help.
I’m not saying don’t love them, don’t pray for them, I’m saying don’t help them. At times your helping ain’t helping, but rather hindering what God wants to do in their lives.
Jesus said to be good to all people, it doesn’t necessarily say to help them. He also said, do not cast your pearls to the swine otherwise they will turn on you and tear you up (Matthew 7;6). Have you experienced this with people you have tried to help? I have. Now I have a “get out of jail free” card. I’m no longer subject to other toxic people! But we need to know who they are.
So who are these individuals we are not to help?
Lazy people. If you do things for them, they will stay in that state. You are hurting them more than helping them. A lazy person self-sabotages. Proverbs 6:9 says a lazy person will end up in poverty. Don’t try to rescue a lazy person, they want you to do everything for them. What does John 2:24 say? “But Jesus did not commit himself unto them, because He knew all men.” He knew where to draw the line. It’s not your job to save the lazy person. That is GOD’s Job... Pray for them. Sometimes we have to do what Jesus told the 70 to do. (Matthew 10:14) If they do not receive you, then shake off the dust and go to the next town. He didn’t want you spinning your wheels on people who take, take, take not learning to take care of themselves.
Corrupt people: (Ephesians 4:29) “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good to edification.” A corrupt person lies, gossips, and says horrible things in their ignorance. I love what I heard the other day, “If we are all Jesus’ friends (believers) then why are we saying anything about Jesus’ friend?”
Proud people: Don’t confuse God’s Love with God’s Approval. He does NOT bless the proud. He resists the PROUD but gives grace to the Humble (James 4:6). Love them without endorsing their actions. Our job is to walk in righteousness. It’s God’s job to fix them. A proud person is arrogant and full of themselves: They say “I did this, I made that.” Leaving God out of the picture. A person who is humble says, “The Lord equipped me to do this or that.” It’s okay to compliment someone for doing a good job. The Bible says to let others praise you and not yourself. A proud person seeks for praise and a false-humility person can’t take a compliment.
Wicked people: Psalm 1 says, “ DO NOT sit in the seat of the scornful.” Don’t hang out with them for any length of time, wicked behavior can transfer to you. Jesus did go into homes of people who were ungodly, but He went with a purpose, to tell them about salvation. He didn’t stay long either. Wickedness removes the good from your heart if you stay long enough. Why are you trying to be friends with someone who doesn’t want to be your friend????? There are more people who want to be your friend, than don’t. You know a person with wickedness in their heart, what will you do? Leads us to the next characteristic.
Foolish – They say in their heart there is no God (Psalm 53:1). Romans 1:21 says, “Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.” A foolish person is unthankful. We cannot help someone who doesn’t think they need it. Jesus came to help those who wanted help!! It said He came to those who needed a physician (Mark 2:17). If a person doesn’t know they are sinners, they are foolish.
Dishonest and Manipulative: Liars... When we lie, we make the devil our father (John 8:44), All liars will find themselves in the pit of Hell. Revelation 21:8. These individuals want to control you! Get out your “Get out of Jail Free” card and put it in their face!! Selah.
Unrepentant. These people stay in their stuff! Blaming others for their issues and not taking any responsibility. They don’t want any counsel. They don’t think they are doing anything wrong. They often say, “But I’m a good person.” We are told not to argue with them, they will not hear.
If you find yourself in any of these categories, that is GOOD news!! Just acknowledging is the first step!! Now simply say you are sorry, and that you need Jesus to cover all these sins. What a concept!
And if you see others in these categories, pray for them, love them, but stop helping them, especially if you have been trying to help someone for years and years! Get out your card and remember that you are FREE in Jesus!
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Based on biblical analysis, these seven types should generally not be aided, as helping them can hinder their growth or result in enabling destructive behavior: [1, 2, 3]
The Lazy/Idol (2 Thessalonians 3:10): Those who refuse to work and are described as "busy-bodies." The Bible states they should not eat, as aiding them discourages personal responsibility.
The Proud/Arrogant (Proverbs 16:5): Individuals who believe they have no need for God or correction and take all credit for their success.
The Wicked/Evildoer (Proverbs 6:16-19): Those who actively plan evil or enjoy causing harm. Helping them can lead to being involved in their wickedness.
The Unrepentant/Foolish (Proverbs 1:7): Individuals who disregard wisdom, refuse counsel, and refuse to admit fault or change their harmful behaviors.
The Manipulator/Liar (Proverbs 12:22): Those who twist kindness into obligation, twist truths, and use others for their own gain.
The Ungrateful (2 Timothy 3:1-2): Those who refuse to recognize grace or show gratitude, often rebelling against goodness.
The Divisive/Discordant (Proverbs 6:19): People who intentionally cause arguments and sow discord among believers. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7]
Why
These People Aren't Helped
The
Bible encourages wisdom over simple enabling. Helping these
individuals often serves to shield them from the natural consequences
of their actions (e.g., laziness leads to poverty), which are
intended by God to bring them to a point of repentance and change