A Woman's Scorn
A real man is made out of stuff that is hard to find these days - like character, strength, honor, and courage. The man who is controlled by a woman has none of these things. God will not use a man that is lacking these things and He won't use a man that can't handle the scorn of a woman. "Hell hath no fury as a woman's scorn" is the old saying. While we know hell is worse than anything on this earth, it must be acknowledged that a woman's scorn is just about the toughest thing for a man to endure. He can overcome adversity, endure hardship and suffering of every kind, and then fall under the scorn of a little 110-pound woman. It is something to be reckoned with, and any man that wants to please God and be able to live with himself needs to consider this matter. What are we talking about when we say "a woman's scorn?"
SHE THINKS YOU CAN'T MAKE IT WITHOUT HER
Many women treat their husband as if he can't get along without her. She talks to him and responds to him and his affections with the attitude that he should just be glad and thankful that she is willing to pay him any mind at all. This keeps him in his place and keeps her with the upper hand at all times. It establishes her superiority in the relationship. She is the one who really calls the shots because he is afraid she might leave him. God pity the poor weak man who has a woman like this and he can't overcome her scorn.
SHE BELITTLES HIM AND ATTACKS HIS EGO
Say what you want, everyone knows that a woman can do to a man with one cutting remark what five other men couldn't do with a good beating. She can make him feel ashamed and lower than a snake about himself. She can take all the wind out of his sails by insulting his ability as a lover, or a provider, or as a protector. A man can fail at his job or business over and over and not feel as bad about himself as he does when the little woman tears him down with her words. She was meant to be a help to the man - not to do that to him. She should be the one who is always FOR him and never against him.
SHE IS CONTENTIOUS
It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and an angry woman and a contentious woman is like a continual dropping on a very rainy day. A man is supposed to make the decisions and be the judge of the matters of the home. His help-meet is supposed to back him up, not be against him at every turn. A woman who is contentious wears her husband down. It ruins the harmony of the home. The children have no guide when Mama disagrees with Daddy and refuses to recognize his headship. Nothing is harder on a man than when his wife questions his judgment and his decisions - that is the scorn of a woman.
SHE QUESTIONS HIS LOVE FOR HER
How did Delilah get Samson? With a little bit of scorn it was easy. All she had to say was , "if you really loved me, you would tell me all your heart." A woman will try to control a man by making him do things to prove his love for her that he shouldn't have to do. She will sometimes try to lead him away from God with this tool. "You think more of that church and that preacher than you do of me!" "I wonder how much you care for me - I never get to see you because you are always busy with someone else." God doesn't have to keep proving His love for us and a man shouldn't have to keep proving his love for his wife. If she demands that he do so all the time it is simply her trying to establish her dominion and control over him.
HOW TO HANDLE HER SCORN
It is always best to look for the answer to our problems in the Word of God. Job was a MAN who was scorned by his wife and was able to take it like a MAN. There he sat in the ashes having lost everything but her and the few servants who had brought all the bad news. He says, "The Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away, blessed be the name of the Lord." He is faithful to God in the trial of his faith and what does his little woman say? "Dost thou still retain thine integrity? Curse God and die." What she was really saying was, "Job, you are a fool! Look what a mess you've gotten us into with your faith in God! How can you possibly still think you are right after you've gotten us in a mess like this? I wish you were dead, too!" It is the same line that many women use today on their husbands. It works real well on most men because they are too weak and spineless to keep going when the wife starts that stuff. It shatters them that the little woman doesn't have any confidence in them and it stops them in their tracks. They quit church and quit serving God rather than stand up to a woman. Job didn't waver a bit, Praise God! He just said, "You sound like one of the foolish women." and just kept on praising and trusting God like he had always done before. That woman's scorn did not stop him from serving God. If it had, don't you think the story of Job would have ended differently? His strength was not in that woman, neither was she the source of his joy and greatest pleasure. Take a lesson from Job, men.
David was another man who had to endure the scorn of a woman. When he came into Jerusalem with the Ark of the Covenant and was dancing and praising God, Michal was watching from a distance and she "despised him in her heart." She made sure to let him know what she thought later when he came home. She came out in front of the whole household and mocked him and derided him for the way he had acted when he was worshipping God that day. What she really said was that he had acted like a fool and was an embarrassment to her. David took it like a man. He let her know that if she thought he had acted bad that day, just wait until the next time - he intended to do more of the same. She didn't derail him in his service for God for a minute. He put her away and never went in to her again. He overcame her scorn. Take David's advice to Solomon: "Be strong and shew thyself a man."
In this day of feminism, it is hard to find a woman that will be what God intended for her to be. Feminism is un-godly and wicked to the core. Anyone who loves God hates it and should resist it's evil influence. Real men are not afraid of women and real men don't cower down under their scorn. Real men are what God is looking for and nothing else. He won't use spine-less men who fall under the scorn of a woman.